Reveling today in the events of my oldest turning 13.
Without an earthly father, I am always seeking our Heavenly Father’s wisdom on how to help my sons gain a vision for godly manhood.
This led me to host a blessing party for Josiah.
I invited seven men from church, plus my dad, also known as Gramps. These are all men who my son knows well and have either expressed an interest in coming alongside of him, or someone who my Dear Son #1 has admired for specific reasons.
I sent a save-the-date invitation to these men 3 months early and bless their hearts, they did!
There is no way that I can fully describe the blessing that the evening was to my son and to me.
One of the men opened in prayer.
Then, I read a letter to Dear Son #1 that included how I came to choose his name (he’s heard the story a hundred times before, but it is good to record it for the future). I also read to him how I’ve seen him grow into a courageous young man – serving, stepping out of his comfort zone when it was the right thing to do, and listing other specific examples.
Next, the men read their letters to him, too – describing the angst of their teen years, as well as what they see God doing in his life and sharing specific passages of Scripture as a blessing.
These letters are now in my son’s keepsake box and will be something he can review over the years.
Two men decided not to read their letter aloud, which is fine. One of them was my Dad — my son’s Gramps. I knew why. At 82, Dad cries easily and I know he was afraid he would totally lose it!
Of course, crying is okay for a man, as one of the other men proved when he read his letter aloud.
During the more serious segment of the blessing party and the reading of the men’s letters, my precious little-boy-turned-teenager, on the cusp of becoming a man, who is typically uncomfortable in the limelight, soaked up the affirmation, exhortation, and challenges from each letter. I was impressed with his poise.
Our pastor ended the first-half of the evening with prayer, while the men encircled J.T. and laid hands on him. I wonder how he felt with all those strong hands tangibly telling him, “We’re here for ya, bud!”
I am so thankful for my friend Isabelle who offered to come and help me for the evening. I love throwing parties, but I’m a lousy hostess.
Napkins? Uh, sure. I should probably get those out now, right?
Utensils? OH good point. Those would be better than fingers!
Isabelle was also extremely helpful with my daughters. Everyone should have a good friend like her!
With the serious part of the evening so nicely wrapped-up, the men moved on to the exciting part of the evening: Junk Food and a Blow Dart game. Yes, that’s right BLOW DARTS!
Danger! Competition! Manly! Three exceedingly important elements for any game to be worth playing!
We ended the evening with a group photo – with one thankful momma, tears in her eyes – behind the camera.
Thank you, Almighty GOD, for this evening and teaching my children that You are their Perfect Heavenly Father. Thank you, men, for taking time out of an already packed schedule to bless Dear Son #1, and thank you Isabelle, for being my faithful friend!
SEED OF FAITH
Psalm 68:5, “A Father of the fatherless and protector of widows is God in His holy habitation.”